Dear Parent,
We live in a world that is busy and constantly pulling us in many different directions. Often, we are simply holding on by a thread, doing the very best we know how to do. And yet, through personal experience and observing the lives of others, I have come to believe something deeply:
Every human being is born with a destiny.
We are created by a God of divine order, placed on this earth intentionally—each of us a vital piece in a greater design. Every life has a role that contributes to the harmony and beauty of the whole. And that includes the child entrusted to you.
By divine design, at least one parent is given a blueprint—a unique insight into how that child ought to be raised. There are general principles that help raise a good and well-ordered child. But beyond those are specific principles—tailored to that particular soul, their wiring, their calling, the way they are meant to go.
Sometimes we receive this blueprint clearly. Sometimes we receive it but fail to steward it well. Sometimes we are distracted, untuned to God’s frequency, or we forget what was shown to us in subtle ways—through dreams, impressions, instincts, and early signs. God is never absent. He does His part faithfully. When things are missed, it is often because we were not attentive enough to recognize or record what was given.
When we are unaware of our child’s specific design, we may overlook developmental cues—the early signs of interests, leanings, and capacities that hint at the path they were meant to walk. If our expectations differ from their design, and because we legally and practically hold authority over them, we can unintentionally train them away from the very path they were meant to follow.
The destiny itself does not disappear. It remains fixed, waiting.
But when early formation does not align with that destiny, a painful mismatch can occur. As the child grows, they may sense they are meant for something specific—yet lack the preparation or internal formation to step into it. This often manifests as imposter syndrome: a gap between who they feel called to be and who they have been shaped to become.
As adults, many must then re-parent themselves under God’s guidance. Neuroplasticity allows change, but it requires great intention, discipline, and grace. It is far harder to reshape foundational patterns later in life than it would have been to align them early.
And yet—thank God for growth, wisdom, and mercy.
Many of us are becoming more aware. By God’s grace, we can begin early. We can tune in. We can ask for wisdom. We can become good stewards of divine insight. We can seek counsel from wise mothers, trusted elders, and those who have gone before us.
This work begins with attentiveness—being spiritually alert, listening carefully, recording what is given, and asking for wisdom to implement it well.
May we have the humility to learn, the discipline to steward, and the grace to correct course when needed.
God’s grace to you.
Yours in truth,
Theodora
